Over time, a lot of things just accumulate in your life. Whether it is random stuff, gifts you received or even extra responsibilities that came your way, it is often difficult to part ways with them.
If you are like me, you probably like to horde a lot of stuff, thinking that one day you might need them again. And it is rarely the case. Usually, the only pleasure I get from these things is a brief nostalgic sob moment when I bring out something from a few years back and think back to that time.
Over the past few years, I have come up with a way to break the cycle.
I call it “purging” because I truly want to cleanse parts of my life and not just do a “cleaning” like I did when I was younger! It’s not radical enough to clean. I must cleanse.
It is an incredibly simple process once you actually get the courage to start practicing it. All you need is a bunch of stuff that is burdening you and the will to breathe easier.
All you do is look at the damn thing, think for about 1 second about whether this is something that is still giving you ANY value today … like more than once a year. If not, put it in a trash bag and when you have gone through all of the stuff, just throw that trash bag in … you guessed it … the trash.
If you are feeling adventurous and you have a lot of time on your hands, you can put the stuff in the trash bag on Ebay or some other online flea market and sell it. But in my experience, it was more hassle to sell the damn thing than to just throw it away and use the time to work … and potentially making more money that way.
Please note: If you feel very strong nostalgia, you might want to put it in a separate pile and go back to it the next day. In most cases, just take a picture of this nostalgic thing and back it up online somewhere. It WILL suffice.
And that’s it. You just do this often with anything that is burdening you. This even works for responsibilities but keep in mind that there are two people involved here, so inform the person or people who are expecting things from you that you want to purge this activity from your life. In most cases they will understand. If they don’t and the responsibility is just a burden with no value for you, you might need to purge these people from your life. If they don’t value you, you can’t value them.
Please note: Feel free to interpret the word “value” in any way you want. This can be money, pleasure or just pure joy out of helping. However, sometimes having a challenge that is not pleasurable can be more VALUABLE than an easy responsibility. So don’t just leave a job for more money but with less responsibility and justify it as purging. You might end up more unhappy than before.
This whole thing might seem scary but after you get started, after each new purge, you will breathe easier. Well, that has been my experience 🙂